Monthly Archives: April 2009

You carry your ‘rank’ in your eyes.

What do YOUR eyes say?

Several years ago I read a book which was to change my life. “The Magic of Believing” by Claude M. Bristol posits that one can achieve any goal by harnessing the extraordinary power of one’s own belief in one’s self. As I absorbed this, it came to me that I’d put this system to work many times without being consciously aware of it. If you’re focused on a particular goal without letup, you do tend to realize that goal.

This can be as simple or as complex as your individual goals.

Over the last few years, I’ve heard a lot about “The Secret” and “Laws of Attraction.” I really like Bristol’s approach, though. He calls this area the science of ‘mind stuff’ and discusses techniques for how to leverage the power of an your mind. 

In the end, it all comes down to ideas. Everything you see around you started with an idea. Ideas require ACTION in order to bring them to life.  One needs to have a specific goal and then must “begin with the ending” in mind.

Think of planning a road trip. You decided on the destination first.  Then you figured out the stops along the way. You planned which roads you’d take, where you’d stay and what you’d see. You began with a vision about where you’d end up.  That’s how this works. There’s no mysticism involved. Bristol says “Thought attracts that upon which it is directed.” Think about it.

There is a kind of ‘magic’ in this, though. When you believe certain things, you act differently. And when you act differently, others react to you in a different way. There’s a kind of ‘electricity’ in how this takes place. You carry yourself differently when you know who you are and where you’re going. You change, and everything and everyone around you changes. It is a kind of magic.

I expect to come back to this topic again. It’s the reason I named this blog the way I did. I’m interested in a lot of different things and hold opinions about most of them. I’m all over the proverbial ‘map.’  What doesn’t change, though, is this belief I have in the power of ideas coupled with directed energy.  It’s unbeatable.

So what are YOU thinking about?



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“The private lives of people are an endless mystery.”

I am remembering all those creative writing instructors who insisted you “write what you know.”  Problem is, my most interesting stories are better left unexposed to the light of day.  

Gay Talese seems to have had no such qualms. His book, “Thy Neighbor’s Wife”, was published in 1980 and was hailed by Atlantic Monthly as  “A sexual Pilgrim’s Progress.”  Imagine it – at the height of the sexual revolution, a fairly well known married male writer ‘tom-cats’ all over town in the name of literary research and goes on to pen a best selling book about the experience.

Sure, it made for fascinating reading, but one couldn’t help but wonder how Mrs. Talese dealt with all this. Nan Talese wasn’t hiding in the kitchen baking cookies while all this was going on, either; she was then an editor at Random House, working a mile or two from where her husband was busily exploring the seamy underside of NYC’s various sexual playgrounds.  Their eldest daughter was 16 when the book came out. Care to walk in her shoes?

Well, Gay Talese is still at it. His new book deals with his marriage — and this article in New York Magazine allows the reader a glimpse into their lives. Most interesting.

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On being opinionated while remaining open-minded.

I’m one of those people who always has an opinion. Not so good. Wouldn’t it be better to resist forming an opinion? Keeps you open minded, right? 

Here’s an example — I read the Chris Buckley piece in today’s ‘New York Times Magazine’, which is fascinating:

After I read it, my first thoughts were rather harsh. (Mine usually are.) That’s bad, because I understand the need for all of us to remain non-judgmental. Seriously, if we could all do that, we’d transform the world. Still, I couldn’t help but pity and envy the writer all at once. His parents were so ego-centric, and yet he grew up amid such glamour.  Recurring thought — if you have enough money, is it perfectly OK to be crazy? And didn’t they both seem kind of nuts?

William F. Buckley could write, oh yes. And if you have ever seen him at work on ‘Firing Line’, he was undeniably a silver tongued devil, as they say. I met Pat Buckley once. It was at a party (I was very young) and she was the cynosure of all eyes (have been dying to use that expression for quite some time, so now it’s out of my system) but you had the feeling that she was kind of ‘tightly wrapped’, you know? The organizers of this event were thrilled that she’d accepted their invitation. When she showed up, everyone treated her like she was a movie star. I just remember she was rather loud, had on a lot of makeup and appeared to be inebriated when she arrived. 

Well, I was a kid, so what did I know? Look, they were his parents and he loved them. I happen to be crazy about my folks. But I can’t help going down this path, especially since I saw the new HBO version of “Grey Gardens” the other night, and I kept coming up with the same thought, to wit:

Have you ever met someone who was downright certifiable but who also had enough dough to get away with it?

Now I’ll go back to trying to be non-judgmental. Right.

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